W and I have done a few things as a family the last few days and are planning on doing something Monday with the kids. Nothing just the 2 of us yet, although we talked about possibly this weekend. W came over for dinner last night and is planning on coming over tonight and staying over.
MC is set up, but still almost 2 weeks away. She has a couples program, which I believe is based on the Gottman theory, so I'm looking forward to that.
W and I did have a phone conversation last night, just talked about how we're unsure how to interact right now- how often we talk, go out, spend time together?? I welcome any advice on that. I think she's feeling some pressure from me to jump right back into 'normalcy'. I'm trying to back off as I know we need to go slow, but do I send simple texts like 'how was your day?'
I also asked her to start the no contact letter last night. She did admit that she's given OM the heads up that we're working on things and they can no longer talk. Should I insist all contact ends immediately or is that better left for the MC session?
Trying to keep expectations low, but feel good about things so far. Communicating a lot more recently. I'm still validating and asking a lot of non R questions.
Now that she's agreed to MC and working on things, I do find myself questioning if this is really want I want. Will I be able to overcome and forgive? I use the analogy of wanting something because you can't have it, then you finally get it and question why you wanted it. I think MC will help me through that.
Other than that, I welcome any feedback on how to interact with W on what I consider this pre - piecing stage. I need more time (and action) before I'd consider this piecing.
