Wife having emotional affair part 2

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I have seen a lot of changes in the wife lately and I hope they are good signs. Last Saturday her and the kids showed up to the party I was at. Although she made several comments that she should leave the party she stayed. She even had to leave the party to take care of OM mother. She said she gets paid to do this(whatever). She said it would take a couple of hours. I told her to leave the kids with me and she could return later. She excepted. After one hour she gave me a call and said I got done early is there anything that you need before I come back. She stayed the entire night.

The wife started school on Monday and was very nervous. I was her cheerleader. She called me both Monday and Tuesday to tell me about her day at school. Tuesday evening we had orientation for S12 at school. The other two kids where being watched by mom. All the kids told my mom that the next weekend that they where at there moms that the OM was going to be home. And that they where going to have to meet him. So they had come up with plans to spend the night at friends houses so they wouldn't have to meet him. My mother was very concerned about this. And said I have to say something. I thought about it long and hard and said to my self that this was not he right time to discuss it. To be a little more calm about it. The kids after the school event wanted all of us to go out to dinner. I said sure and named a good place to eat. During dinner we made small talk and she made comments about the food that she had tried there before with OM. I think trying to get under my skin. So stupidly I brought up the kids stuff and how they didn't want to meet him. And I didn't think It was a good idea. If they are not ready that she should not make them. This of course was taken as trying to control her. She said the kids where just playing both sides of the table. Blah blah blah. She even offered to ask the kids what there feelings where in front of us both. Stupidly, trying to be right. I said go ahead and let's ask them calling her bluff. Of course she didn't want to because she said the kids would take my side of it anyways. I ended the conversation by stating you need to think of the kids and how this is going to affect them. Her last comment was effect them or you.

We finished by going through this kids supplies for school and she laid down on my floor and acted like she was sleeping. The kids offered her to spend the night. Which she hummed and hahed about. I recently borrowed a bed from her. Because at her request I do. She made a comment last week that if she needed to stay at my house she was not going to sleep on my bed of an air mattress( which is what I'm using at the moment). The kids then started and argument and she said the kids would never act that way at my house. I replied that that is not the norm at my house either. And discussed my ways of controlling there anger (new way of dealing with them has been working great for me). She was leaving and I was having a cig with her and all of a sudden we hear screaming. I run inside defuse the situation with out any anger. 180 for me! I turn around and she is standing by the door with a big smile. I walk her to her car and she is almost waking right on top of me, like shoulder to shoulder. I must have mistaken it as a sign and asked if she wanted to go for a walk with me some time and it backfired back in my face. Dumb!

Wednesday we had the S5 and D9 school orientation. The wife came over from work and was going to go in her scrubs from work. She thought it was no big deal. I mentioned that she looked so beautiful the night before and said she should do the same tonight. She said ok and ran home and I picked her up. Wow she looked good. We went to the school did some flirting with each other. And one of our old friends from way back that must not have heard about us came to talk with us. She has how we where and how school was going for the wife and made a comment. She stated "trust me you are going to need your partner when you go through school to handle the rest of life, your lucky you have a great one." Something changed in her. After a little bit she said this is all to much, I validated. But she said she is going to stick it out. We finished up. And I dropped them all off at her house. She made some comments about her family wanting to spend time with the kids on my weekend. I said sure but if it was doing something fun I wanted to join in. She didn't like that idea. I said my good byes and left.

I know I am suppose to be the bigger man here but am I wrong about the kids and seeing the OM. I know in her eyes she has to see if it's even possible for them to get along with him. But I think it's just wrong.

Well with that all said any help or comments are greatly appreciated.

P.s. Got a day off tomorrow and running away for some piece and quite. Don't know where but just leaving!