I'll Take What's Behind Door Number 3 #8

[Georgiabelle]

I don't want to hijack anyone's thread (yes, I realize I do that and I'm doing my best not to anymore). I've been reading many threads and always respect everyone's opinion. I've seen reconnections (yay!!!) and so e faced with difficult choices. Here's the best part, regardless of which side of that fence you are in you WILL be fabulous:-). I've always thought piecing reconnecting looked tougher than surviving BD. I an quietly cheering you on. And for those facing D? It $u&ks doesn't it? I had to google to find out what this fully entailed and I will know more as I live it. However, you are not a failure. And 20% of couples that D remarry (I actually know a few) so as the wise ones say, keep the focus on you. You ARE worth it!!! I know it can be difficult to not get a wee bit bitter or angry. Work through it. It's normal. Your relationship status does not define the person you are.

Some of you are looking for jobs outside of the hem for the first time in many years or need a different job. I've worked in some shape form or fashion sense I was 10 an I wanted to share a story. 4 years ago I was working at a company that was struggling in a major financial way. I had been with the company for 12 years and recruiters and Hr in prospective employers thought I was a freak for being with a company that long. There had to be something wrong with me. I interviewed, interviewed and had more interviews for a year and a half. I literally had been up all night crying because I needed to support my family and leave the company due to it's perilous financial position. A recruiter called me for a position with a very sexy Silicon Valley company. I looked at their Board and these folks were Yale, Princeton, Forbes magazine fancy. Think pin strait hair, lithe figures, impossibly perfect noses and kids with hyphenated names at Chapin. (Nothing wrong with any of that. This is for illustrative purposes only). Me? There? I don't evening to comb my hair. I have football decor on my car. I could have gone to a fancy college, however I weighed the financials and said "no can do." Anyway, this position was coveted. They had over 80 people interview for the job. When I went for my first F2F interview , I was so nervous about my not so fancy yet nice interview ensemble and frizzy hair (darn you humidity!!!) that I accidentally drank out of the teapot versus the cup. Yes I did!! I was so afraid that I wasn't pedigreed enough or my work history wasn't eye brow raising enough. However, even though I may type grammatically incorrect, run on sentences, with typos on this board, I know I'm intelligent. I have a keen business mind. I KNEW that I could do this and knew my stuff. 3 weeks later I was told there had been no other choice other than me. Those other folks weren't even in the same ballpark said Harvard MBA hiring manager. My point is and there has to be one after all of that, is that I knew I could do it. Yes I had been deterred the year and a half prior and there was a reason this had to wait. I did it.

I'm no longer with said company although it was a phenomenal experience. Additionally, when people see my resume they say "oh wow. I see you were with x for 18 months." Don't doubt yourself. Heather, Shining, GGG, Maybell and so many others. You have so much to offer and you are a success.

My d9 gave me the ultimate compliment yesterday. She said, "mommy you always seem happy." (Happy. That word). I smiled and told her that I have bad days like everyone else. However, I'm blessed in so many ways and grateful for the gifts I have. I have so much to be *happy* about. Oh and I got some really cute boots for when it gets cooler on November:-)

Okay. Back to regular scheduled programming. I refuse to sign up for the MasterCard Victim In Life Rewards program. :-) Thanks to everyone for following along on my crazy thread. Happy Friday eve!!!