hi Dawgy -- I just wanted to share that I am in the exact circumstance. I was doing pretty well, actually very well, with detaching -- her response was positive. Since this past Sunday, however, she seems to be in a bad place emotionally, very withdrawn, very quiet (but not mean or nasty to me or kids). I am still staying away, but am really getting scared for her watching it. I will be a year into this mess come mid-September; I believe this whole thing started for her about two years prior to that (grandfather's death coupled with a permanent break from a neglectful parent --- oddly, the parent reached out to her for the first time in three years this past Saturday and told her she looked "sick."). I want my wife back more than I can explain, but I no longer really want the old relationship. The changes I've made I love. I am worried that she no longer thinks I care for her, that I only want to be near her, but I know too that I can't tell her how I feel as it will absolutely push her away. I have been through tough times before, but supporting the person I love in this circumstance is the most difficult thing I have ever experienced. I've spoken to only a few people about this. I've said, "'MLC' might be fiction, sure -- whatever you want to call what my wife is going though is fine. If it is fiction, though, can you find out for me what it is called, and after that find out how to tell my wife I love her?"
