Mindsink - Part 2

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My W wanted to talk to me last night. She said that she just wanted to check in and see how I was doing emotionally. I told her that my feelings really haven't changed, and that I'm still trying to figure things out in my head. I added that I'm continuing to try to make myself a better person and learn the things I need to do to be a better husband.

She then asked if I'm still talking to the woman I met online. I told her yes (and I am). I said that I am getting good words of wisdom from someone who has gone through this very path before years ago (WAS/OP situation). I told her a little bit about their situation without going into too much detail.

She then told me of the upcoming nights she will be staying over (with the OM). One was last night. She said that she had to be at work very early and it's a much easier commute from where she'll be staying. She showed me her calendar on her mobile to show me the early morning meetings she has lined up. She then said she will be spending the day out of state on Sunday and it will be a late night. Because of that, she will be staying over on Sunday too.

At the same time, she asked me what time we should leave Saturday morning (for our day trip), and we shared ideas about activities we will do that day. We also talked about some of things we'll be doing on Monday.

I found it interesting that:

1. She did not mention the OM at all regarding Sunday but she told me where she will be. I'm assuming she'll be with the OM, but she didn't feel the need to explicitly tell me.

2. She tried to lay out the reasons why she is spending those two nights (have an early meeting, will be back late). She does not need to justify to me why she is doing so. She certainly didn't in the past. I would not have questioned or asked her why she is spending the night. It almost seems as if she is subconsciously seeking my approval, even though she does not need it, and made it clear in the past that she doesn't need my permission (and she's right).