I think the Valerie's are tolerable, it's so evident they aren't the one! But, what I found is that there's a lot of ambivalence out there. It's easy to throw up a profile, wait for messages to pour in, message with people, maybe talk on the phone but when it comes to meeting and then deciding whether to move on to dating...women (and probably men too) can get kind of wacko. Again, I think at my age at least, if you're on a dating site you've been through some pain and despite what people might say, leaving that behind and making yourself vulnerable, even a little bit, is scary. I think the key is not to personalize what people do to you...I still haven't mastered that one!
