Thanks for the support and perspective Ss- I'm trying.
FY- you're right, I went into fix it mode. Ackkkkk! I need to wack myself with the patience shovel! I get very discombobulated when he says those particular things as that usually follows a few days later with the thought that he's never going to be able to figure it out and mentions the D word. It's not that I don't think I would be ok, I would be fine and I am doing fine, it just sends me on that d@mn roller coaster and takes me a minute to regroup. The conversation continued and I'm hoping I didn't say to much. It came up that any attempt at working this out would require starting a new relationship. He wanted details on how that would happen. So I told him it would require starting with a beginners mind, and talked about what I had learned from my mistakes and what I need to focus on differently. I said I couldn't speak for him on that. Maybe it will scare him, maybe not. But he asked so I sent back a short blurb. He said he wanted to get some sleep and reread and respond to things.
Your opinion is always welcome FY- thanks. I'll back off now and just listen and validate.
Me 41 H 40 M 20 T 23 S 19,16, 8 D 13 BD1 dec 2012 not sure going to work BD2 sep 2013 seeking a D Filed oct 2013, D Feb 2015 Life is about daring greatly, about being in the arena- Brene Brown
and talked about what I had learned from my mistakes and what I need to focus on differently. I said I couldn't speak for him on that. 