Wife Declares She is a Lesbian

[essjay]

Thanks for the reply getrite.
I like that story and would be interested to hear more...
Any more out there?
She's adamant that she's now a L and that there's nothing i can do to 'fix her'..'to bring her back'.
I'm struggling to understand how it can happen, over time you decide you are and then later you're not a L????
I'm still thinking MLC, i can check a lot of the boxes for her. Perhaps i should post on there?
50th birthday last Jan. She has had childhood trauma; father died in hospital and she didn't see him - was kept away. Supported her mother through those tough times - just got on with it as she says! Older man, a family friend trying to kiss her all the time when she was a young girl.

Update
MIL has been staying with us for a week. She finally told her the situation on the very last day of her stay, a huge step and one that there's no turning back from! MIL sensed that there were 'issues' and is stunned. Too emotional to talk to or see me and our girls.
That evening was awful because W told our girls as well. Very emotional, lots of tears.
Discovered that she is being coached by people on this lesbian website in what to do and say in these circumstances. These people are helping her it seems!! Positive that there is an affair now as well.Still doesn't admit it, lies, lies and more lies.
Getting to the stage where i think she has to move out - i can't live like this anymore..
Told her that she needs to think about renting somewhere.
Think i'm done and letting her go.. as painful as it is for me and the girls.
Anybody out there can help me with some coaching?