i under earned for several years, putting more stress on my wife. my depression caused me to refuse to even go outside for days. i would say more and go deeper but this is a public forum. lets say i went through dark times of depression and she was there, ever pleasant.
what did i do wrong in the last two years? i worked, i earned money, i cooked paid for bills, took her out anywhere she wanted, offered to take her to vacations and she refused i had big projects moving forward and she squashed them all. my life reduced to a few dozen garbage bags and living in my dads house until we divorce or reconcile
many say why would i even want to if i improve and she stays negative. i feel she has earned the right to be super evil and vent to her friends, others, etc.
i have to earn the ability to even speak to her. but the pain of no contact at all is difficult. at least i dont have to worry about when she will come home. focus on myself and being creative to create businesses.
im not a sneaky OM who spoke to her for two hours a day for two years confirming everything she said. i have no clue if this was platonic or not but it should be accepted as not.
i would always offer to go out with her to clubs or anywhere and she showed no interest
i wanted to scold her but she said not to be like her dad, plus i said it is important to have friends. i think all women will soon become the same "not needing men" and "doing well for themselves"
