Igit newbie needs help part 3

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Pilot, I appreciate it. My IC who is a 30 yr psychologist who has seen it all in her career told me today she is even confused on the D filing, living till next June etc. Last week I needed to get out of home for night so I took off at midnight. W called me and was pleading with me to come home that night. She was telling me she would stay in room and sleep with me. I didn't come home didn't tell her where I was , she called me at 3am.she called me at 6am.I didn't take bait. I tell this to my shrink and she tells me she still doesn't know what she wants. IC knows wife from a few visits and has told me that there has been a 3rd party in our relationship and it's her dad. I know it and wife knows it but some people just can't deal with those demons and ignore the effect is has on there life. When these issues arise pre-menopause they will do whatever they can do to find happiness. What they end up finding out is there unhappiness and issues will keep following them until they deal with them. I have tried to get w to deal with this since she went off of deep end but to no avail. Very frustrating