Saving my family - Part 13

[melissag]

Hi Scorp, just checking in on your sitch, as I haven't been around much lately.

I am sorry to tell you this, but you are NEVER going to understand why your W does what she does, or thinks what she thinks, or why she is insisting on spending a bunch of money you don't have on lawyers, or why she is staying in her parents' province even though the price is so high. You just aren't. So you just need to do what the others said up there - you look out for you and your kids. And if YOU need to make sacrifices to do it, then that's what you have to do. Does it suck? YES! But you do not have a choice. Ask your L what you can expect to happen if you fight her on this stuff. The things your L says you are going to lose, give them up. Now. Whether you agree with it or not. The things your L says you will win - decide whether you are willing to pay your L to get that win for you. That is ALL you can do. Stop messing around with trying to convince her of things, or fix things, or whatever, and just get to work figuring out how things are going to be, and how you are going to make things work for you and your kids. Trust me, because I know from experience, all you are doing right now is making yourself crazy.