igit you ask some good questions. Yes, I absolutely want my family back. And yes, I do want my wife back. But like you, not the woman who I see today. Problem is I do not know if who I see is who she is, or if I am not seeing clearly, or if this is a temporary thing. In a perfect world I would have my family back together. My kids would have their mom and dad living together and they would grow up in a traditional family. But it is not a perfect world. All we can do is play the hand of cards we are dealt. Right now it feels like I am playing a hand I am not able to look at yet.
We do have very similar situations. I am hoping you figure it out so you can pass on the magic formula. Because I certainly do not know what it is...other than time and patience. Have plenty of one, not sure about the other.
Me: 42 W: 32 Married 7 years together 8.5 S1: 7 S2:7 Bomb #1: 09-16-13 Recon #1: 11/13 A discovered 04-03-2014 W filed D 05-19-14 but never served me I filed D 12-02-2014 S 05-31-14 Divorced 5-19-16