(How I wish I had a working printer. But it will be good practice to copy it all out by hand tomorrow!)
I think I'll open with: "Why don't you tell me what's on your mind? I'm willing to listen..."
And if he's vague, as always:"You know I'm not great at reading between the lines. Could you spell it out for me/provide an example/give more detail?"
And NOT answer that"what do you want?"question! Yikes. Not out of the blue like that. That's a real can of worms.
In the past he's asked, I've told him, and he's said: "Well, you're not going to get it." (And not that nicely, either.)
And I will not offer much on my end, except to send out a few well-timed "Truth Darts" as suggested, let him know the door might be open if he does the work.
Then if he starts pushing for something I don't want, I'll validate, thank him for talking with me and sharing his feelings and thoughts, and say we can talk more another time.
But I will not agree to anything that is not in MY best interests.
---GGG
Me 54 Him 63 M 23 T 29 0 Kids Funny Farm of Rescues 12/12 OW-- 5/13 ILYBINILWY: A denied 9/13 Proof OW: ENDED 2/14 Got D papers on my BD I kicked him out for my sanity 9/14 He wants to "talk"?
