Amoeba Whisperer: "Stay in your OWN Petrie Dish!"

[GoatGal]

Wonka, you are SO RIGHT!

But I'm not sure how to proceed.


He may be trying to feel me out---

I doubt he means "WHAT DO YOU WANT IN A DIVORCE SETTLEMENT."

That's a bit premature.

As is any talk about "the future".

There IS no future with a guy who says to his wife after all he's done:
"CUT THE VICTIM CRAP"

I've heard that one before, btw.

It was right before he said: "I've given you EVERYTHING!!!!!"


I think it's a loaded question.

Probably he wants something, he wants me to pursue, to invite him to come home, even into the basement, with no strings attached.

Maybe his freeloading ride at his friend's house is done.
It's been six months.
Sounds about right.

Even she must have SOME limits.
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But this man is clearly not ready to have a conversation, much less move back home!

I think he is VERY AFRAID and wants me to make the first move, to reassure him.
But that puts me in a bad position, to do anything more than suggest he might get his act together someday, maybe.

But certainly being nasty to me is not really getting him any traction...
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He has been really angry on and off lately.

I still don't see any real insight, no real kindness, except on rare occasions.

It if were ME that wanted to talk about the "future", I'd be much nicer.

And he knows full well I'm not going to discuss or help him divorce me. Or move.

I really don't even need to mention that.
I've made it clear on many occasions.

That when he could divorce me based on state laws, that he could if he wanted to and I couldn't stop him.

He knows this hasn't changed.

And sorry, but three therapy appointments hasn't cured him, obviously!

He probably is getting kicked out.

That's my Crystal Ball prediction.

He sure as heck ain't acting like he wants to be my boyfriend or anything.


I'm wondering if I should just keep doing what I'm doing.

It's clearly driving him batty!!!

---GGG