I think it's GREAT how you handled the "no voice" misunderstanding on his end. Way to stay calm and explain his misunderstanding simply and directly with no "you idiot" implied (though secretly maybe it was. LOL).
On the other hand, I wonder what would happen if you just listened. He wants to talk about the future. Take the win. Sit and listen to it. Validate. Listen more. You two are involved in a dance of this back and forth stuff and it's NOT WORKING. Are you willing to do something different? What?
I'm sorry about Eleanor.
Keep your head up. You know your strength and grace and that is a GREAT thing, GGG!
