Amoeba Whisperer: "Stay in your OWN Petrie Dish!"

[GoatGal]

Here's an update: HE WANTS TO TALK ABOUT "THE FUTURE" but he's being awful nasty about it!

GUBU very pointedly didn't let me know if/when he was coming this evening, he just showed up.
(Trying to push my buttons, arriving unannounced. It's an invasion of my privacy and he knows it. So I stayed inside and ignored him.)

After a few text exchanges, he starts going into how he wants to know EXACTLY what my hours will be this weekend, how late will I be.

Because he wants to STAY here but has made it clear that he doesn't want ME to be here, for whatever reason.

He only is "willing to stay" if I'll be home "LATE".
My plans are not that specific where I can give him an exact hour and frankly, I'm sick of feeling like I have some obligation to be out of the house.
Either he is willing to have some contact with me because I LIVE HERE, or NOT.
That's up to him.

He treats me like I'm poisonous or something.
It's wearing a little thin, like if I just died all his problems would be solved.

I say, very brightly "Well, sheesh, not till the crack of dawn or anything. "

H: "Be clear. How late each night'

H: "Just trying to plan my time"

(I didn't even have a chance to respond!)

Then, H: "Monday...we need to talk... Goodnight" (It's 7:30)

I called him then, just because I thought it easier than texting when we get mixed signals.
I have a sore throat, and I croaked my way through the voicemail I left him.

I just said that I "didn't want to get our signals crossed through texting, was curious about what he wanted to discuss, and I wasn't deliberately being vague about my plans, I really didn't know. And in the past this has been a problem when we weren't on the same page...."

He texts back: "Not trying to be a chit...no talking tonight...we have time"

Time? Time for WHAT? Is he about to get kicked out of his free housing?
Let me guess---there has got to be something HE WANTS. This is a given.

Me: " Sure, I have no voice anyway "

Me: "It will be helpful to know ahead of time what you want to discuss so I can give it my full attention.
"And we can bury Eleanor (our last dog to go) on Sat/Sun"
(He'd wanted to do it this weekend.)

I get THIS RESPONSE:

HIM: " Yes you do (have a voice) and I have not tried in any way to screw you over."
" When could I have? So dump the victim crap."

(OUCH!!! We both know, he's the REAL VICTIM, right???

Him: "Here is an idea...what do you want? Goodnight."

Now what am I supposed to make of THAT ^^^????

What do I want?
In life?
In his divorce settlement?
From HIM personally?
For extra help with chores?

Mr. Vague-Don't-Want-To-Be Pinned-Down-On-Anything....
Who knows????

Me: (COOL AS A CUCUMBER) " I meant, no 'speaking' voice. I sound like a frog on the voicemail I left you. Maybe you didn't listen to it"

I didn't bite.... I drank from the STFU bottle, and had a big old piece of CTHD.

(Calm The Hell Down)


Him: "OK....be safe...tomorrow..." (Clearly now a bit cowed.)
(Vague as usual. "tomorrow..." what, exactly? Whatever.)
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To be clear, I have not seen or spoken to him in person in more than a week, maybe a few words on the phone.

I haven't gone out of my way to see him--why should I?

He's here for 30 minutes or so, I'm not going to chase him around the property to say "Hi!" just so he can feel like he's got me on a string.

He didn't stay to see me when I came home from my trip, he hasn't sought me out, so, WTF?

He knows where to find me.
He can ASK me to come out and say "Hi."
He doesn't, for whatever reason.

Oh well!

No doubt he's mad.... about whatever he gets mad about.

"What do you want?"
Hmmm..... Talk about the million dollar question.

Well, first of all, I want not to have any more contact with the "Cut the Victim Crap" Guy!

H: " Sorry for the sloppy texts, driving, but I want to talk about the future. I thought you would know that."


I will tell him I am not willing to discuss speeding up his divorce, or moving out. Anything other than that, I will be willing to talk about.

I have not said that to him--yet.

Thought you all would enjoy this little bit of MLC banter!

Have a wonderful evening!

Your Pal, the Triple G Gumby Goat Gal!

---GGG