I vote 1 - but that is possibly because from my vantage point, any contact with H would be better than what I have currently!

2 - possibly, but why not go for 1 and have an opportunity to see him, show off the new you and assess where he is at in the flesh (vs over text)
3 - no, you are bending too far here
4 - no, would probably mess with my head too much

H 37 Me 36
Together 15 years
Married 5 years
No kids
BD Apr 2014
H moved out 2 Jun 2014