Because you've let her to do so for months and months. Then you get shocked with a letter from her L. Why? We've warned you all along that the possibility of it happening may happen.
I wasn't totally shocked, nothing would do that at this point. I was a bit surprised though that since she had just sent me an email on Thursday that said "talking together is better than going through the lawyers who are more than willing to take money...whether it is there or not.". We met that same day and talked at length, and then she has her lawyer send another letter a few days later.
I can't control my wife, that is for sure. She may find out soon though that others are going to assert their control of the situation and it may effect things she thinks she has control over now. Case in point, if the bank forecloses on our home then we both will lose a lot of the control of the situation and we both will walk away with nothing. Does that sound like the best option for our kids?
Me-40,W-37 D7, D5, S3 Separated Oct 3/2013 T 11 YRS M 7 YRS