I think you've handled everything okay. At least he thought of you on your special day. It's not the most romantic gift, but it was the thought that counted. I like the idea of you ordering him the boots.
As for him wondering where you are, sort of reminds me of a child worried about where his mom is at all of the time.
Keep up the good work.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
