The thing is, whether she wants to or not, there is reality to consider. If our home in my province does not sell and we continue the way we are, we will go under. If she came back, we not only would not go under she could have a nice place of her own, I could keep the place our kids love, everyone is great other than she doesn't get to live where she wants.
She doesn't share your POV at all.
I have made sure my lawyer will insist on the custody order. It has also been noted that I am incurring extreme financial hardship because of her actions. I've also had her include the fact I have paid for ALL of the expenses related to the acreage property. If she wants to be nasty then I will be going after her for paying her share which is a VERY large bill at this point.
Then put it writing in response to W's L.
I do still love my wife, I likely always will. Having said that, I hate what she is doing to all of us for the sake of her own happiness. It doesn't seem that she is even truly happy.
It is totally understandable that you still love your W. You cannot possibly know how W feels. This is mindreading here.
What I can't accept, or at least I can't understand, is her insistence on living where she is. She can have a great life back in my province, we could move on immediately and with all of us much better off than if we continue to go down the path she's forcing us on.
It doesn't matter. All it matters is at this point, W doesn't want to be married to you nor does she want to be in your province. She wants to be near her parents and that's that.
BTW, she's trying to chart a new path for herself and it is not for you to decide if she can have a great life in your province. If she thought that way, she'd have stayed in your province.
You. cannot. control. W. My W is still dictating a lot of the situation, she will always be involved. That's something I can't control and as long as she continues to make the decisions she has then my family is in for a much harder road ahead than we would have had to face otherwise.
Because you've let her to do so for months and months. Then you get shocked with a letter from her L. Why? We've warned you all along that the possibility of it happening may happen.
You will have it rough for a while as now you are in the v. phase...that's why they put the v. in between the parties to borrow from one of Starsky's gems. It is now a business negotiation.
