ahh, I hear you about confidence setbacks. I think it happens to the best of us especially given our situations. I've learned that "fake it till you make it" is a GREAT way to become confident. I have these little mantras that I say to myself in the car while I'm driving and feeling particularly anxious about my life. I say, "You're ok. OK. You're ok." and "have grace" because grace to me means "beautiful strength" and who the heck doesn't want a little of that?! So with that, WH, have GRACE!!!
How sad that J doesn't have any friends. I would think that would speak volumes to someone in his situation. I do love that your phone seems to develop problems right around the time you're tired of hearing him vent. Cracked me up!
I see where the courts are coming from, I guess. I hate that for S but like you said, it'll just impact their future relationship.
