Be careful of labeling W as having a 'split personality'. She is conflicted for sure. One thing that's pretty clear is that she is still resolute in moving forward with a D so you'll need to adjust your mindset accordingly. Then on Monday I received a letter....from her lawyer!!!! In it she said that she thought the trailer wasn't suitable for the kids to stay in so until I had secured a permanent residence in the area my time with the kids would only be on weekends. Wow....
I hope you had your L address this in the letter to her L. Challenge this and push back on this. Also state that you have a nice home in your province that is FAR MORE suitable for the kids with better opportunities (according to you).
Don't fall on the sword just for the sake of appeasing W. From here and on, it is all about the kids.
I had also been unable to talk to my kids for the past 5 days after I dropped them off with her last Thursday. My D7 phoned me two hours after I left, she was crying and said she wanted to come home. I told her I would talk to her the next night but for several days I was unable to reach them. My W would have overheard my D7 talking with me so I can't fathom how she could deny my kids from having contact me for that long. I've repeatedly told my W to call to talk to our kids anytime she wants when they are with me, something she almost never does.
I hope you instructed L to inform W's L that you want unfettered access to the kids at all times.
We are facing financial ruin, something that could be easily avoided if my W would come back to my province, it doesn't look like she will ever do that and would rather see us in bankruptcy so she can stay where she's "happy".
It doesn't matter what YOU think is the correct way to handle this for W is far far far gooooone! She DOES NOT want to be in your province. Jeepers! Try to tattoo this on your forehead.
She does not want to be married to you any longer.
