Saving my family - Part 13

[Scorp7]

My W seems to have a split personality, or an extremely hard time being honest, or maybe it is her mother pushing her to do what she's done. I tend to firmly believe it's a combination of all of those things with the last point being the strongest reason for her actions.

We just met last Thursday and discussed everything. We didn't agree on everything and yet I thought it was a good discussion. She told me several times she didn't want to use lawyers anymore. She also knew my plans for the coming months if she continued to refuse to move back to my province.

Then on Monday I received a letter....from her lawyer!!!! In it she said that she thought the trailer wasn't suitable for the kids to stay in so until I had secured a permanent residence in the area my time with the kids would only be on weekends. Wow....

I had my kids with me every other week in our trailer for the entire months of May and June while they were in school. Our trailer is very large, it's likely bigger than many people's apartments. I had only planned to use it for the month of September as it will start to get a bit cold after that. I made that very clear to my W. It seems she is looking for any excuse she can to try to cause problems for the shared parenting time we've had going over the past four months.

I had also been unable to talk to my kids for the past 5 days after I dropped them off with her last Thursday. My D7 phoned me two hours after I left, she was crying and said she wanted to come home. I told her I would talk to her the next night but for several days I was unable to reach them. My W would have overheard my D7 talking with me so I can't fathom how she could deny my kids from having contact me for that long. I've repeatedly told my W to call to talk to our kids anytime she wants when they are with me, something she almost never does.

My lawyer is drafting a letter to respond to her lawyers letter which will reiterate that I intend to do everything necessary to continue the shared parenting arrangement we've had. It's insane because neither my W or I can afford to use lawyers at this point, something she seemed to acknowledge up until this Monday. I will be picking my kids up again tomorrow and then get ready to have them back in school the following week.

I am going to stick to what I've been doing. I'm putting my kids first and will do what I have to in order to make sure they have both parents equally. We are facing financial ruin, something that could be easily avoided if my W would come back to my province, it doesn't look like she will ever do that and would rather see us in bankruptcy so she can stay where she's "happy".

I'm meeting with my bank today to see what else I can possible do to keep us going. Wish me luck!