barely holding on - 3

[u-turn]

Sandi-Thanks
I do realize that even if the affair ends she may not want to return to the M. That will have to be seen. But I don't want to screw anything up or make matters worse.
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The last conversation we had about the affair, which was several weeks ago, she indicated that there is no affair (because he won't leave his family) - I did not call her out at that time that it was a lie. She avoids lying to me by being very vague with her statements or not telling me anything.

So without bringing it up again or start another conversation about it, she is technically not lying (in her mind). So all of my mistakes made pre-db are still biting me and the lost respect is still there.

It's funny that she will talk to our kids about lying (it's the lying by omission that we both teach our kids about)and respect, but doesn't follow her own lessons.

She must realize that this is happening - right?