Meh, apparently our posts from the last couple of days (before the boards went down) have been deleted. I know people were recommending that I start posting what I'm up to on Facebook again, and I've done just that. I posted a picture of the dinner I helped make on Saturday and got a lot of positive feedback from it. I even got a "like" from H, which is rare. I'm sure he's shocked because cooking is a total 180 for me.
I'm still stressing about this stupid email that H wants to send out to our friends. The version he wrote is too flowery and happy, so I need to rewrite it to take it down a notch. My friends are recommending that I be upfront with him and tell him that it hurt me to read his version of things. However, I feel like he already knows that and telling him so would just be going down another cheeseless tunnel. When I pointed this out to one of my friends (that this would be "more of the same" behavior), she said that going along with this version of the email would be a total 180 for me and really make H think that I've turned a corner and am OK with our impending D. While she's right, I don't think that's the answer either, although DB says to do what's counterintuitive, doesn't it?
Augh. I want to let H know that this version of the email is NOT MY TRUTH, yet am trying to balance that with making it seem like I've moved on and am GAL. I'm irritated as all heck with his version because he's clearly trying to prove to all our friends how hard he tried to make our marriage work and to not have to shoulder any of the blame for walking away and giving up. He's trying to make the decision to D seem mutual.
Me: 35, H: 37, no kids Together since 2002, Married since 2007 IDKIILY: 2/2013 MC: 5/2013-6/2014 H stated he was REALLY done: 4/2014 I moved out 7/6/14 H filed end of 8/2014 but still hasn't served me