K, thanks everyone. I guess I'm hesitating around doing things with H primarily because of the whole pursuit/distance dynamic. I want to be sure I don't present myself as just waiting around for him to spend time with me. Also, I'm working on being more patient. Especially once we hang out together I want him home and I want it NOW. I'm trying to force myself to slow it down.

But I've got some things cookin (literally and figuratively)...

H will be dropping off the kids shortly after their day at the beach. I have lentil soup cooking (which he loves and makes the house smell yummy) and will invite him to eat --- or at least take some home with him.

Also, the kids both have school appointments on Wednesday. I'm not sure if he is going but if he does I think we have a bit of a break in between appts so I will suggest we get a little lunch in between if we have time.

Had a really good, productive day so far. Went for a run, did a bunch of errands then my friend came over to help me in the yard. We hit some road blocks --- found a giant wasps nest right where we were hoping to do some pruning! --- but now that she's advised me what to do I'm psyched to handle it on my own once I conquer the wasps nest. Yet another adventure!


M: 42
H: 43
M: 8 years
S7 and D4
H has D19 and S25 from previous M
Bomb: 3/6/14 OW discovered, EA & PA
1st separation, 10 days, decided to reconcile & moved back in. Fail
2nd separation: 5/1/14