Unbidden, I think mdu is trying to make sure cake eating doesn't happen and trying to create a slight sense of mystery while keeping her pma up. It seems her pma takes a nosedive when spending too much time together.

Mdu, good for you! I would think maybe something asking the lines of the hockey game would be good (but I am no expert) a little bit of time together but without expectations

Me: 35 husband:39
Sons 16 and 11 from my first marriage
Twins 5 (boy/girl)
Daughter 3
Affair bomb 2/27/14
He moved in with ow 3/13/14
OW kicked him out 6/15/14
4/2016 he seeks help for sexual addiction