Hi twinmom, thanks for dropping in, feels like I'm floating in here by myself sometimes. I'm trying to have boundaries, I thought that I did, but clearly I am doing it wrong. I think one of his 5LL is acts of service, so was trying to do things to make his life easier and not say no which is what I've done in the past, this has just made me seem like doormat I think. We have four days on/off with the boys so it's constantly rotating, so this week h has them Mon, Tues, Wed, Thurs and I get them back 8.30 Friday morning. H only has work ute so I have been the one doing all the pick up/drop off. including going to his place on his days when the boys have daycare to pick them up and take them to daycare and then pick them up from daycare and dropping them back to h.
so that's why I thought I'd drop the car seats off to him today and he can use his bosses car or borrow a car (nor my problem what he does) he has to work it out. Then I shouldn't need to see him until Wednesday when I have the boys and I take them to swimming lessons.
I am a physical person, it's part of what I do, tactile touch is a big part of my job, and I always touch people when I talk to them, but some of the hugs and the kisses on the forehead or lips for that matter are just plain weird, even I wouldn't do that with a close male friend, so yes cake eating, fence riding what ever I want to call it. and as much as it kills me, it has to stop.
him talking about ow to me is also inappropriate, and something that shouldn't be happening, on the flip side to that, him talking to me about anything remotely emotional is a 180 for him, so I don't know how to handle that. things like she had a interlock in her car, so she has to blow in the breathalizer attached to her ignition and if she had any alcohol in her system, her car won't start (classy lady! ) which is why she would have stayed at h house last night (surmising)
I gave to remember not my circus, not my monkeys....
thanks for the advice twinmom, I'll try everything you suggested
