Hi U-turn, I am sorry that your brain is working over-time this morning. A couple of thoughts:
- are you friends of your W on FB? If you are, I would recommend unfriending her so that you do not have to see (and overthink) what she is writing about. I am pretty sure that she is not communicating with you when she posts on FB that she is thankful for 2nd chances;
- Your post on FB seems like pursuing to me. Saying that you are grateful for people who challenge you to be more, is like waving a flag to get the attention of your W saying "look at me, look at me. I'm changing." The change only works as a positive to your spouse if you do it without drawing attention to yourself. You know, pursuing only causes the WAS to back off. Detach, a powerful word but difficult to practice. Good luck.
