Come up with a set parenting plan (for days/times of drop off) so there is almost no communication needed about that. Can you have your mom or someone there when it's drop off/pick up time for a week or two? This will give you some help in the pma department and make detaching easier.

DO NOT contact him unless absolutely necessary!

Me: 35 husband:39
Sons 16 and 11 from my first marriage
Twins 5 (boy/girl)
Daughter 3
Affair bomb 2/27/14
He moved in with ow 3/13/14
OW kicked him out 6/15/14
4/2016 he seeks help for sexual addiction