Yeah I can see how this looks like gaslighting. I am being played and told that I am controlling and a lunatic because I broke into wife's phone and want her to go NC with the OM. Yeah I am the crazy one.
Me: 40, W: 40 M: 15, T: 18 D - 10, S - 7 D announcement 6/7/2014 A discovered 7/20/2014 (but denied by W) Still living together and sharing same bed