Dealing with WAW part 4

[pilot]

Those of you DBers with kids have such a different situation from those of us without. You really have to consider maintaining that civil, agreeable relationship for the sake of the kids. On the one hand that is so difficult, and on the other I guess it provides an excuse to talk and spend time together. I mean, if you didn't have kids together you probably wouldn't have helped her move today...

You are absolutely correct...at least I think. If we did not have kids, I would not have helped her, and probably would not even be here. Or so I say that. But so many people here do not have kids and they are trying just as hard as those with. Of course, before all of this happened, I would have sworn if my wife had an A I would leave her in a heartbeat. Which of course....

We can always speculate on what we would do when something does not go the way we like when it comes to someone we love. But the reality is, you never really know what you are willing to go through because of love. Having kids as an excuse to talk to your WAS is a double edged sword. I feel for those here who have that fear of never talking to their WAS again when they go NC because there is no real reason for them to keep in touch. I also understand first hand the anxiety LBS feels when they are forced to keep constant contact with their WAS because of the kids when all they want is to not see or talk to that person for a while just to let themselves heal a bit. All we can do is play the hand of cards we are dealt.