help me i am new here

[twinmom]

Nope, you get to decide if the door to your heart is open or shut. THAT is the only thing you can control. You don't get to control her, you don't get too make decisions for her. You can legally protect your assets (without being vengeful) but otherwise she is an adult and can do whatever she wants.

There were/are many times I wanted to "save" H from making financial mistakes. It took me a long time to learn this. Now H is trying to clean up some off those mistakes. Such as dropping himself off our cell phone family plan and going on OW cell plan with a different company. He now has to buy out of that contract or go on a plan by himself which is more $$$. Oh well, this is his mess to clean up.