barely holding on - 3

[PeterV2]

It upset her and she said "we're through".

I heard those exact words when I locked my computer and changed my password and told her no R talk until the A is over.
A week later she's asking me to lie in bed with her and hold her to see if it feels right.

Don't believe a word of what she says. She will spew. She's conflicted and will say crazy things.

Continue on your course U-Turn. I see things in your sitch that are micro-improvements and that is a good thing. Yes it will take more time than you want.

You have to let the A run its course. It looks like it's getting to a turning point all by itself. Keep up the PMA. Continue with your improvements. She will start seeing you as the better option at some point. Hopefully soon.

Just don't pursue. Don't push back. Don't try to get answers from her. It's extremely hard to do but it's the only way. Really. Detach. Be happy. No R talk. And be a bit mysterious. Don't wear your heart on your sleeve. Don't leave you computer open to this forum for her to see. This is for your eyes only. She will see it as manipulative. We all know it's not. You're just trying to save your M which is a noble goal. But let your nobility be your private pride. She's got her own row to hoe.