On the brink, need a miracle

[Onguard]

I returned home after 3 days away. When I am gone I do not text or call her first and I am very brief with my responses. But when I am home I am trying to show her the best man I can be. I don't plan dates but this backfired on me a bit yesterday. The moment I walked in the door she had her bag packed and a cooler ready to go. I asked her what was up and she said that she was going to our friends lake-house with the girls for the night. I was a little disappointed and she asked me if that bothered me. I said no, but I was looking forward to spending some time together. She said that if I wanted to do that I should have told her and planned something.

We talked for a little while before she left and she said that she thinks we need to try dating each other. I said that I didnt think that would work for me until she is ready to commit to the M. She also said that she wonders if we should try to get through the rest of the year and give us "one last chance" to see if her feelings for me return. All of these things sound like progress but it could also be a trap. Some questions:

Is she just trying to stay in limbo and keep me as plan B?

Should I continue with my distant but interested "plan A" approach or should I do as Starsky had suggested and go to LRT or ALRT?

She says that she has had no contact with OM and is trying to get over the affair each day. However, she has not agreed to commit to the M.