Wifes severe depression, MLC, and suicide attempt

[AJM]

LT, what is it you want to be able to look back at this time and say about yourself?

Your wife has said she doesn't want you in her life. She tried suicide. She interacts with the kids, but otherwise wants her own life without you in it, right?

You are doing the right things by keeping silent, based on that. What other choices do you have?

But look ahead to what you want YOUR life to be like. While changes can be good in that they get you out of the habit loops, be careful of high-impact changes. They can add the distraction but have long lasting consequences and add a lot of stress. And since distraction may be the allure, ask yourself what you want to be distracted from. That's something to make peace with, more than likely. Not saying don't make the changes - you have less to worry about if you do than you did when you had more responsibility.

It's not easy to deal with what you're dealing with, LT. It wasn't planned nor asked for. But it is a great opportunity to make peace with some of the things in your life and a chance to try some new things. Some won't "fit" your life and others will.

One other question - what do you feel responsible for regarding your wife? Not what are you used to, but what are you really feeling responsible for?

AJ