Train, my source of Intel is OW's baby daddy, who apparently had snooping equipment installed on her devices. I've never had independent sources. But she lives in a foreign country which my H has not visited since May. I know in May that he pursued her and she rejected him.
The baby daddy also asked me about other times she & my H might have gotten together which I knew for sure hadn't happened. From that and other things I surmised she was seeing someone else and had thrown my H under the bus to the baby daddy to cover the new guy from the baby daddy. (Is that confusing enough?)
In July H asked me to lunch and we really struggled to have a conversation. In the middle of it he blurted out that he wasn't seeing her anymore but that he still wanted his space. From the look on his face I felt he was actually telling the truth. When I asked who ended it he said it was mutual, which I read as she dumped him, based on my previous guesses and conversation with the baby daddy.
So I'm 90% sure the affair is over. But possible (likely) H is still pining after her at least some. Considering we've never shared a computer, his cell phone bill goes direct to the office, and a lot of their interactions were on the office skype account because she works for his company, the only source of intel I'll ever have is the baby daddy, and I'm pretty sure I'll never hear from him again.
Nobody among my H's acquaintance knows about her so far as I am aware, which is fairly far.
I am conflicted about spending time with him. I feel a little bit like a show dog. On the other hand, I've broken my heart with missing him and it's probably worth seeing if there's any there there before I break my heart any further.
Thanks!
Me42, H40 D12, S8, S7 A revealed: 7/13 Sep 4/14; Agreed to D 1/15
