Hi 2B, Just wanted to say that you never know what may set them off and out the door. My W offered many times to leave if it was "too much" having her around knowing she wanted to leave. It was like she so badly wanted me to tell her to go so it wouldn't be HER choice. In the end it wasn't anything I did that pushed her out the door. She found someone to tell her to do it (her father) and could therefore say that she was doing what HE thought she should do. It didn't matter that he was the ONLY person she knows who told her that she should leave. That her own mother was telling her to stay and try to work it out.
In the end, it really may have nothing to do with anything you do or don't if he stays or goes. Remember that. By the way, my 21st anniversary was yesterday. I was so worried what to do as this is first since W left. Turned out I was so busy doing things with my D's that I totally forgot about it! I woke up this AM and noticed the date and realized the day had past and I didn't think about it once! Didn't get one word from my W (soon to be ex). She's been gone just 2 months now and I've detached so much more in these 2 months then the year plus after B-day. You will be OK whatever happens, 2B. Remember that and you will be fine!
