NAP, I understood what you were saying. It's difficult not to have your feelings change when a crisis comes along and your world is turned upside down. The longer the crisis goes on, the more the people change and sometimes, they go their separate ways. No matter what happens, you are a success story.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.