No not judgemental my friend . What your wife has done in my opinion amounts to nothing more than an emotional affair that got out of control . Then the guilt and shame became sooo great after being found out there has to be an excuse for her behavior , not just to you but to herself mostly . Thats where the continuation of seeing OM and the influence from him comes into play . Im sure that if she could turn the clock back to the point where this started then she would and this would never have happened . That being said I believe the fog takes over after a shot time during the PA gets rolling and her life seems ok . Shes got a fling going , a good home and dedicated husband , shes livin the dream , all is good . This is where the Fog is the thickest . Then H finds out and creates mass panic and confusion . This is where we are now . I believe your wife and mine are good people doing a bad thing based on the past history of my W anyway .
She told me she was sorry and wished she hadnt got us into this mess. Although it took her awhile to own up to it .Im sure she tries everyday to lay the blame on me driving her to this but I know and she knows deep down its just an excuse to escape the heavy guilt and shame of whats shes done to her family . In time whether we are still together or not she will come to realize this . They all do eventually . It really does help to put yourself in her shoes and try to figure out what she may want from you to help deal with this . And being kind loving and patient cant be wrong .I know if it was me doing this I wouldnt want a crazy crying demanding wife harping on me .
Me 45 W 45 Son 16 Son 14 Married 23 together 27 W threatened sep several times W still at home A discovered Mar 17 2014 A ended DEC 2 ( skeptical )
