Maybell is right. He probably is not happy right now, and his lack of enthusiasm for his job is a key indicator. But try not to measure his happiness. You will ultimately get it wrong, and most likely have a belief he is having a great life without you. Your H can walk away from his M, but he cannot walk away from his problems. Might take him a while to figure that out though.

I do not know if I personally would reply to him if there was no pressing reason to. Him asking if it was ok for his mom to email your a question or not really does not seem all that vital to reply to. His mom is an adult, if she wants to email you, she will.

Best of luck to you!


Me: 42
W: 32
Married 7 years together 8.5
S1: 7 S2:7
Bomb #1: 09-16-13
Recon #1: 11/13
A discovered 04-03-2014
W filed D 05-19-14 but never served me
I filed D 12-02-2014
S 05-31-14
Divorced 5-19-16