He ended up calling me and asking me to come out side and talk.
Good for you. This again shows you ARE trying. People who aren't trying don't go out to talk do they?
It also shows that what you are doing IS WORKING. He called you.. He apologized to YOU.. AGAIN...
He wasn't doing that when you were telling him how much you loved and cared for him was he? So, that means what you have been doing is WORKING.. (holding back and being strong and making him do the work)(even though behind the scenes you ARE working...) That's exactly the way to do it.. Great job..
Don't change what works. Keep this path for now.
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We had a really nice long talk about everything.
This again shows you are trying. This again shows you are a good woman. When someone says they had a "nice" long talk, that is a person who doesn't sound bitter in the least. It sounds to me like a couple of people making slow steady progress.
Do what works........
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I told him him talking to her, her family, or anything to do with them is mom negotiable for me and to just prepare for a divorce at that point.
Perfect reply again.... Confident, strong, firm and yet not the least bit mean. It is also saying AGAIN that you ARE trying.
Great great job T.... You really need to just keep listening to your own heart and mind here because you certainly are doing all the things that are pointing you in the right direction.... Allow him to grow up here. Observe, keep your cards close to your vest. You will know when you can give him more of yourself. You won't need us to tell you that because none of us know. I trust your judgement.
