He says he found a job, with a company that he worked with before, and one that let him work remotely pretty often. That was frustrating to hear. First, because apparently he could have had a job and worked from here. Second, because I'd hoped his movement into his new life would be a little more difficult and cause him to think a bit more about what happened. Third, I guess, because I'm still imagining him having this awesome life without me that I should have been a part of, but that's neither here nor there.
Actually, he said that he wasn't that excited about the job, but he guessed that he had to do something. I almost blew a gasket at that one. Yes, he should have a job. But...it shouldn't be just because no one's taking care of him now and he has to make sure he has income and all that. He should have had one years ago so the burden wasn't entirely on me.
There were some other elements of his email that were annoying, too. Nothing major, I guess, just some comment about how his family was "sad about what happened", which made me want to yell, "You contributed too! And you LEFT! This isn't something that just HAPPENED to you!" But I suppose that's a hallmark of everything that's happened and his belief in his lack of responsibility.
Maybe I'm reading too much into it, but if nothing else, his email sounded rather sad or like he was a bit unhappy. Trying not to think about that too much.
Anyway, I'm undecided about whether I'll reply or not. There was a kind of question in there about whether I'd be okay with him mom emailing me about, but I'll probably sleep on it and raise it here again tomorrow. I'm pretty tired right now.
My parents came into town today to visit for a couple of days. They want to take care of me and are helping me clear out some stuff and make the apartment more mine, which I appreciate. It's been good to see them and to run things by them. They're pretty appalled at this point and can't believe some of the things I was putting up with, which is validating but doesn't really make me feel all that much better or understand what happened. It's nice to feel like I'm moving on a bit more, though.
M - 34 H - 36 Together 10 years Married 4 years BD - March, 2014
