I wish I'd had this site a year ago. My H's "no contact" (ha!) letter was practically a soliloquy of "farewell my love" and included a reply in the same vein. No wonder I ended up where I am.
Keep fighting the good fight, Tarheel.
Me42, H40 D12, S8, S7 A revealed: 7/13 Sep 4/14; Agreed to D 1/15
I wish I'd had this site a year ago. My H's "no contact" (ha!) letter was practically a soliloquy of "farewell my love" and included a reply in the same vein.
Fwiw, Tar, our NC letter is in my thread titled, "Looking up at the mountain ahead," I believe.
I'm not on my computer. If someone else is and can easily find it and link it here for Tar, that'd be great. But it was pretty standard. Very short and sweet.
M: 40 H: 44 Married 14 years S11 & D6; D20 & D19 from previous M 2BDs/PAs, 8 years apart Piecing: April 2014
Fwiw, Tar, our NC letter is in my thread titled, "Looking up at the mountain ahead," I believe.
I'm not on my computer. If someone else is and can easily find it and link it here for Tar, that'd be great. But it was pretty standard. Very short and sweet.
Ask, and ye shall receive:
Quote:
OW,
As I've already explained, our relationship is over. It was a mistake, built on lies and deceit, and it hurt my wife and children very much. I am committed to Train and my children and to repairing my relationships with them.
Do not contact me any more. I will also not be contacting you.
I have committed to being fully open, honest and transparent with Train about my affair with you. To that end, any attempts on your part to contact me – if you choose not to respect my wishes of no-contact - will be immediately shared with my wife, just as I've openly shared with her the texts you've sent this week.
Good timing- W just left. We agreed to try to work on things.
We had family dinner, helped kids with homework, then got them in bed. W started yawning and complaining about how much she had to do tomorrow, so I thought for sure she'd leave without talking with me. But she sat down and asked if I wanted to talk.
Conversation had its ups and downs. We'd start going into difficult topics, but then would agree that we should probably wait until MC.
So W asked me to find a MC and set that up. She also agreed no OM contact. I told her that involved writing a letter for me to approve and send as well as both of us sharing emails, passwords, etc. She was fully on board, which really surprised me. W left and we hugged goodbye. Family bday party tomorrow and we talked about trying to go out on some dates upcoming.
Now the hard work begins- discussing some very difficult topics. My biggest hang up will be with OM, where as W will be more focused on the past 15 yr dynamic. With all I've read and learned, I feel confident in addressing how I contributed to the M failure.
Feeling good about tonight, but am well aware of the possible starts and stops, so trying to control my expectations.
Good timing- W just left. We agreed to try to work on things.
We had family dinner, helped kids with homework, then got them in bed. W started yawning and complaining about how much she had to do tomorrow, so I thought for sure she'd leave without talking with me. But she sat down and asked if I wanted to talk.
Conversation had its ups and downs. We'd start going into difficult topics, but then would agree that we should probably wait until MC.
So W asked me to find a MC and set that up. She also agreed no OM contact. I told her that involved writing a letter for me to approve and send as well as both of us sharing emails, passwords, etc. She was fully on board, which really surprised me. W left and we hugged goodbye. Family bday party tomorrow and we talked about trying to go out on some dates upcoming.
Now the hard work begins- discussing some very difficult topics. My biggest hang up will be with OM, where as W will be more focused on the past 15 yr dynamic. With all I've read and learned, I feel confident in addressing how I contributed to the M failure.
Feeling good about tonight, but am well aware of the possible starts and stops, so trying to control my expectations.
