Tonight I was setting up something on his phone for him and it automatically loads all of your contacts into the app. Her name pops up first. It was like a punch in the stomach. I passed him his phone and said are you kidding. I was quiet and told him I thought it would. Be best that he went home. He apologized a few minutes later and said he deleted her off everything he said 'I don't think about her I didn't even think about her number still being in my phone'. I just said I really can't even think of moving forward with any part of her in your life. It's not fair to me or the boys. I shouldn't have to tell you what to do. You should do it because it's a step towards what YOU want
Ouch.... yea, that's a tough one.
I 100% agree, pretty dumb move not getting her out of the phone. It does show a lack of for thought on his part. I think you made the right move by asking him to go home for the night.
Moving forward, I think that would be a good boundary to set. Something to the tune of: I did not appreciate you still having her number in your phone. When I saw it it made me feel like you still had intentions of communicating with her.
More of a question: didn't someone post or mention a method of H & W writing a don't contact me letter to OM/OW that is then sent by the the LBS?
Me: 43 M: 10y S:15 ILYBINILWY 2/18/13 W moved out 2/18/13 Filed for D: 2/17/13 Got DB: 2/20/13 Got DR: 2/23/13 180 & LRT Began: 2/25/13 D Final Dec '13
