Sandi - I believe it was them breaking up that sent him to the C. And I hope he is being truthful
Tonight I was setting up something on his phone for him and it automatically loads all of your contacts into the app. Her name pops up first. It was like a punch in the stomach. I passed him his phone and said are you kidding. I was quiet and told him I thought it would. Be best that he went home. He apologized a few minutes later and said he deleted her off everything he said 'I don't think about her I didn't even think about her number still being in my phone'. I just said I really can't even think of moving forward with any part of her in your life. It's not fair to me or the boys. I shouldn't have to tell you what to do. You should do it because it's a step towards what YOU want.
Wounded - no my lawyer didn't draft up a legal separation. I didn't even think about it to be honest. H is returning all the vehicles and has agreed to let me sell them. He made his attorney aware so it could be communicated with my attorney so that should we proceed with divorce it will not be held against me.
Money wise and child visitation I figured we could work out ourselves now that he is not in the fog anymore. He has already been more than helpful etc. we will see.
I'm keeping finances separate. Part of me wants him to move back in in the next couple months so I can quit this second job for when I start school in January. I know the motives have to be right though.
