I thought the same thing. Detaching is what helped save ME which allowed me to come off to H as someone he wants to be with. Especially since you are the man. Women want a MAN. Show her you are strong. That is attractive to a woman. We don't want desperation.
It's only when I truly started to let go of my H that it caught his attention. Let her think as it is said around here - you've had an awakening and you are MOVING on with YOUR life!
