H however kept pushing the issue. I tried the same speech on him. He said that was ridiculous because NOONE was hurt. He is the happiest he has ever been in his life and the kuds are happy for him. He is his real self for the first time. Now he knows that things could never have worked between us because the real him doesn't like or respect me.

Well buddy the real you is a total a$$hat.

Me 44 H 42
M 10 T 12 (at time of BD)
Ss 20 16
S11 (special needs)

BD 9/13 H "unhappy for years" moves to seperate bedroom
10/13 EA/PA confirmed but denied
S and I move out 3/15