So I think I handled things well with OW. She kept texting and calling asking about a play date and offering herself as a babysitter.

This is the gist of what I said.

" I had wanted to meet her because I know she spends time with s. I however do not feel comfortable personally handing my child over to her. I know she is not responsible for any of the choices h has made. But those choices have caused a lot of pain and she is right in the middle of all that. I hope she respects my feelings. Thanks for calling.

Haven't heard from her since.

Me 44 H 42
M 10 T 12 (at time of BD)
Ss 20 16
S11 (special needs)

BD 9/13 H "unhappy for years" moves to seperate bedroom
10/13 EA/PA confirmed but denied
S and I move out 3/15