The thing about AlAnon and/or ACOA (Adult Child of Alc) is that you don't have to identify anyone as alcoholic, just that another person's drinking is, or has been, a problem for you. And it's not about fixing them, it's about fixing ourselves. I think I learned more about detaching and live and let live in those meetings than anywhere.

I'm originally from the midwest. My parents were also sanctimonious about alcohol but you don't have to dig too deep to find it's roots run deep in the family tree. Of course that was something else we never talked about and that silence is part of the problem.

Me 57/H 58
M36 S 2.5yrs R 12/13

Let me give up the need to know why things happen as they do.
I will never know and constant wondering is constant suffering.
Caroline Myss